Find out her name. Don't continue to refer to her as "the new girl." Sometimes the new girl status sticks longer than necessary. Take Kathy, for instance. She moved into Singapore five years ago, and there are still some students who call her "the new girl." She laughs about it now... but ouch! The label made her feel left out for a long time.
Treat her with dignity. The new girl is not a pet. There is a fine line between helping a new girl find her way around and dragging her around to show off to your friends. Ask if she needs help; don't just assume she does. You'd be surprised at how self-confident a new girl can be.
Remember your manners. It is not polite to ask a new friend a bunch of personal questions. If you are truly compatible as friends, you will eventually share intimacies and secrets. Don't ask her why her parents are divorced. If her family has money. Or why they moved. Oh, and if she happens to confide in you, don't blab her secrets to your friends. This is a sure-fire way to lose a new friend before you even had a chance to get to know her.
Give her space. Let your new friend make up her own mind. Don't fill her head with old school rumors and judgments about other kids. It's not fair to her and it's not fair to others.
If you find your new girl gravitating toward a different group of friends, let her be! She may just have more in common with them.
ODon't Make Her Over. Unless she asks, don't go suggesting she change her hair or her clothes or her perfume. She may go along with you because she wants to fit in. But underneath it all, she may feel bad that you aren't accepting her for who she is. Be patient. Teens adapt quickly.
Be Fair About the Guys. It's almost a certainty that your "old guys" will try to talk to the "new girl." It happens every time and it's not her fault. It's human nature that we are interested in someone new. After all, you are interested in getting to know her too. Just keep cool.
Invite her over your house. Hang out in your room, listen to music or watch a movie. Show her some photo albums of you and your friends. It will help her to remember everyone's name. Tell her about past school trips or upcoming events. She will get excited and begin to feel apart of the school community.
Making a new friend is one of life's greatest pleasures. Treat your new friend in the manner in which you would want to be treated and you may very well make a friend for life!
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